This letter of mine was published in the LATimes in Feb. 2008:
[My best letter (so far) on marriage]
I've been in a very long-distance monogamous relationship with a Mexican citizen for almost 15 years. In the 90s, we applied three times for a tourist visa for my partner to just visit me here in Los Angeles. The application was refused each time.
We gave up. I visit Mexico, and together, we've gone to Costa Rica and to Canada.
"Why not just get married?" you ask. That would be nice, but we're gay.